I had worked in my office job for over five years at the time, and I didn’t hate it by any measure of a doubt – (I’m still working there part time over ten years later), but something didn’t feel right. It didn’t click and make me feel like I had a purpose.
Through recent years there have been many losses and changes, so where do I hold my grief? When and where do I feel it? Can it be allowed out, to be seen and shared, is acceptable in the daylight? What slips through the cracks in my mask of professionalism?
As tough as it is, it’s important to help them adjust before, or at the same time, as we ourselves are doing. They must learn this skill from us too. The ability to cope with emotional pain is crucial to help them adapt to change.
We all hurt, and it sucks, who wants to hurt? For me, the response to ourselves when we hurt is crucial to our recovery. It is often tempting and culturally endorsed to blame and criticise one’s self for the hurt we experience.