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Binge Eating Disorder - The Most Hidden of all the Eating Disorders (Trigger Warning)

I’ll only have one, and before long the whole packet is eaten, and you end up feeling guilty and disappointed in yourself. Then shame and disgust with being unable to control food again. It seems relentless the endless diets, the endless promises to lose weight, the endless good resolutions to do more exercise, the endless, constant, preoccupation with food, overeating, restricting, poor body image, weight and food contents. And so, it goes on perhaps for months, perhaps for years, perhaps for a lifetime.

Is this a serious eating disorder? Is this a destructive eating behaviour? Are there negative consequences to this type of eating behaviour? Can this type of behaviour affect daily functioning? Can it effect concentration? Can it effect relationships? Can it effect self-esteem?


The eating behaviours described in the first paragraph are Binge Eating Disorder (BED), this is a serious mental illness where people experience a loss of control and eat large quantities of food on a regular basis.


Destructive – dictionary definition: causing great and irreparable damage.

The damage caused by yo-yo dieting and endless bingeing is both physical and psychological.

Negative Consequences

These can include extreme weight gain and the accompanying medical issues. i.e. gastro-intestinal problems, diabetes, joint problems

Low self-worth and low self-esteem resulting in depression is common.

Lack of motivation as cognitive function is affected by poor diet.

Difficulty concentrating due to impaired cognitive function owing to poor diet and preoccupation with food and weight issues affecting ability to focus.

Mood swings resulting in dysfunctionality in relationships. Possibly affecting sex drive. Low-self esteem resulting in a hatred for self which influences the ability to be true and open in relationships.

Yes, this is serious. It is as serious as any other obsessive mental illness. It is as serious as any other addictive behaviour. It is as serious as any form of compulsive disorder. But there is danger here as many people affected by BED are mostly leading functional lives. They are running their homes, paying their bills, collecting their children from school, holding down jobs etc

BUT are they present in all these areas? Are they truly functioning or just getting by, doing the bare minimum that they can? Are they connected to their children, families and fully engaged in all their relationships? Do they have purpose, and can they find meaning in their lives?

Looking at the negative consequences of the destructive eating it is very clear that people involved in these types of behaviours have lost themselves in their eating disorder and are merely existing.

I repeat, here lies the problem. Most people in this relentless cycle do not realise they do have a genuine, serious eating disorder. They often feel they are just gluttons, greedy and unable to control what they eat. They often think that the next ‘super’ diet will solve all their problems and once they have lost weight all will be well, and their problems will be over.

There are so many difficulties with this type of belief system (which has probably been handed down to them from generation to generation and certainly been influenced by societies attitude to weight loss and body image). The difficulty is in realising there is a mental health problem here.

How does someone remove themselves from the relentless cycle of destructive eating behaviour when they perhaps don’t realise, they are engaging in a destructive eating behaviour? It is virtually impossible for them to realise that the weight itself has become an integral part of them, perhaps a protective barrier from sexual predators.

There is a lot of research stating that obesity in many females are as a result of childhood sexual abuse. Women use their large size to feel safe and hide their sexuality. This is extremely serious, and many women will not even realise this. So, the very act of losing weight can bring up many negative emotions. That is why it is vital to seek professional help and not a commercial weight loss programme.

I am not stating that all obesity is caused by BED but there is a huge percentage who will be bingeing and overeating regularly and not have any understanding that they have a serious eating disorder.

Admitting the problem

On a physical level weight gain will indicate that the person is overeating but is that enough to make someone realise they have a serious mental health illness?

On an emotional level the person may find themselves eating food to change how they feel and deal with their emotions.

On a psychological level the person may find themselves thinking that food is the answer to deal with their problems and they may simply be following a historical pattern of eating and a very deep-rooted belief system.

On a spiritual level the person may be filling an empty hole in them that nothing else in their life seems to fill.

Until a person can recognise all these four areas it will be extremely difficult for them to look at a solution without becoming obsessed with weight loss.

Many people use food as a comfort and have the occasional binge and feel guilty. It is important to reiterate that those struggling with BED do not have an occasional binge, they are regularly bingeing and constantly preoccupied with weight and body image issues.

The Journey of Recovery from BED

There are no quick fixes here. After a thorough assessment treatment can begin. One Day At A Time progress is made to address all issues, starting with the tip of the iceberg, the bingeing itself.

  1. Achieve abstinent from binge eating

  2. Work towards sustainable weight loss

  3. Increase and maintenance of motivation

  4. Education around healthier eating and lifestyles.

  5. Adjustment of dysfunctional thought processes, habits and core belief systems

  6. The treatment of physical and mental comorbidities. (Treating other conditions at the same time as BED)

  7. Relapse prevention techniques

  8. Helping clients to maintain a healthier lifestyle on a biological, physical, social, psychological and spiritual level.

  9. Encourage exploration of meaningful activities.

  10. Promote peer support.

More education is needed around this particular type of Eating Disorder.

Author's Bio


Rochelle Craig MSc FDAP Accred holds a Masters Degree in Addiction Counselling and is accredited with FDAP (Federation of Drug and Alcohol professionals). Rochelle see's binge eating as an addiction and chose the 12 step model in her own recovery. She has been working with all addictions for nearly 13 years at The Living Room Addiction Treatment Centre Hertfordshire specializing in eating disorders/disordered eating and has developed and delivers a CPD training programme to health professionals introducing the '12 step programme for working with obesity'.

You can find further in formation or read Rochelle's blog on her website or contact her via Twitter or Linked In Please see for more information about all types of addictive behaviours.

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